It’s amazing to think that one year ago today, I shared my very first post on Hello Bexa. In 365 days, I have published 136 posts and had the opportunity to do some pretty awesome things and chat to some pretty awesome people. I wanted to make this post a bit different than just listing everything I’ve done in this first year of blogging (you can see all my posts here). Instead I wanted to acknowledge the fact that yes blogging is cool, but it is incredibly hard at times too.
I want to take this opportunity to share with you a few things I have learned on how to survive in the blogging world. Here goes:
If you want support, be supportive.
This is something I learned pretty quickly. If you want blog comments, go leave blog comments. If you want Twitter followers, go follow people. If you want engagement, go interact. Make the first move and surprise yourself. I was once asked how I got 50 comments on my latest post, there is no secret, I just simply (it took hours) read and left 50 comments on other blogs. In my experience, the majority of bloggers are kind and will happily return the blog love.
You don’t need to follow a set of rules.
The blogging world is packed with great advice, but you don’t need to follow a set of rules to be successful. Just because it’s available doesn’t mean you need to use it. Personally, I don’t schedule tweets, I don’t use Instagram stories, I don’t spend much time on Pinterest and Facebook and so on. If it works for you, great. If not, don’t stress. Focus on what you enjoy rather than trying to be everywhere and do everything.
Make your social media a positive place.
Social media is wonderful for discovering, interacting and supporting fellow bloggers. But it can also be a negative and overwhelming place at times too. Recognise when it’s not making you feel good, stop scrolling and go do something else. Social media should enhance your blogging experience, not hinder it. Find ways to control your social media, rather than letting it control you.
Know when you need a break.
Whether that is a day off from social media or a week or so away from blogging, we all need a rest sometimes. Don’t feel guilty if life gets in the way, it happens. Your blog will still be waiting for you when you return. It’s true that creativity suffers when we are feeling exhausted and stressed. It doesn’t matter if you skip a blog post or relax your schedule. The phrase is overused but seriously, be kind to yourself.
You are going to feel insecure at times.
Unfortunately, comparison and self-doubt come as part of the package of being a blogger. It is inevitable we are going to feel inadequate at times when there are tons of bloggers everywhere, all seemingly doing incredible things, getting fabulous opportunities and striking up amazing friendships. It is easy to feel less than and left out. If you feel like this, accept it is a normal reaction but don’t dwell there for too long. Shake it off and remember people like you, because you are you.
There is space for everyone.
Every single blogger is unique. We each have our own special skills, talents, ways with words, quirks and personalities. Your voice is just as important as anyone else’s. Don’t be afraid to be yourself and share your passions (even if they are not ‘on trend’). Dare to be different and stand out from the crowd.
Being a blogger is a roller coaster ride of highs and lows, but it is a journey I am excited to be on and I wouldn’t change a thing. Thank you so much to everyone who has connected with me, supported me, been kind and made this such an amazing experience so far. I am forever grateful to all the lovely people I have met along the way and I’m looking forward to see what the next year brings in this crazy blogging world.
What would be in your bloggers survival guide? Feel free to leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!