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Social Media For A New Age by Katie Brockhurst

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Whenever I post a book review, you can guarantee the subject is either going to be self-development or blogging. Today’s review is all about social media, a topic which I find fascinating, as some days I love it and think it is awesome, and other days I feel completely disconnected, exhausted and overwhelmed. So instead of trying to figure it all out myself, I decided to check out Social Media For A New Age by Katie Brockhurst.

Katie is known to her clients as a ‘Social Media Angel’, and spends her time coaching and consulting for mind-body-spirit authors and experts across the world. Katie has a background in broadcast, music and entertainment and now uses her knowledge, experience, creativity and intuition to share her unique approach to social media. Her book is written for those who know the potential of social media but don’t want to lose themselves in scrolling, comparison and doing what the so-called experts tell them to do.

Check out Katie on Twitter / Instagram / Facebook

You know when you read a few pages and immediately think, yes this is the book for me! Well, I got that feeling with Social Media For A New Age. Katie straight away acknowledges those common anxieties that come with being online and vulnerable such as the fear of being judged, the fear that we are not good enough, fear of being too different, too spammy, too boring and so on. Then helps us figure out why we use social media, what our values are, and how we can show up fully with integrity and authenticity.

Katie explains that we all have two sides when it comes to social media: the soul and the ego. The social media ego wants all the likes, a big following, it wants to look important, successful and in control. The social media soul wants community, connection, engagement with like-minded people, it wants to support, share and make friends. Both sides play a part in our social media journey, and Katie helps us understand and recognize when the balance is shifting and what we can do to regain control.

Social Media For A New Age doesn’t tell you how to get the clicks, the follows and the likes, instead it encourages us to make genuine connections, build real relationships, share our passions, take breaks and be ourselves online. It gives us a fresh perspective – social media doesn’t have to be a source of self-doubt, jealously, separation and anxiety, but a place of friendship, collaborations, creativity and community. It reminds us that we are in control, it should be a safe place to create, innovate and share.

Thank you Katie for sending me this book, I found it to be a refreshing read. We often see so much online about how to grow your platform, beat that algorithm, use those hashtags, schedule those tweets and so on. Instead, this book offers a gentle, comfortable and natural approach on getting the most out of your social media to make it an enriching and enjoyable experience. I would therefore thoroughly recommend Social Media For A New Age to anyone with a Facebook, Instagram and Twitter account.

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  1. Soffy
    November 5, 2018 / 8:18 am

    Sounds like an amazing book! Before I started blogging I wasn’t on any social media platform as to be honest it scared me. It even took me 4 months into blogging to embrace Instagram as I just never thought it’d be something I’d be happy with or comfortable. But I’ve come to know and love the community aspect of social media which undoubtedly goes hand in hand with blogging and I love it! Some days I end up ignoring both Instagram and twitter but there are days I find myself engaged in a lot of topics with other bloggers – it’s amazing!

    • November 5, 2018 / 2:27 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Soffy! I am exactly the same, some days I am more active on social media than others. But it’s nice to know there is a friendly and supportive blogging community there and its up to us how often we engage. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post <3 xx

  2. November 5, 2018 / 9:34 am

    I love the sound of this! It’s so easy to get caught up in the likes and the follows, and to be bombarded with information on how to increase those things, that this sounds like such a lovely book to get back into what social media can actually be used for. I definitely want to spend more time making connections and making a difference, rather than just posting for the sake of posting to grow.

    Cordelia || cordeliamoor.com

    • November 5, 2018 / 2:31 pm

      Thank you so much for the kind comment Cordelia. That is so true, sometimes we need to focus on the people we already follow and build those friendships rather than trying to grow bigger and bigger. I’m glad you enjoyed the post lovely <3 xx

  3. November 5, 2018 / 11:21 am

    I have a love hate relationship with social media, on some days I feel totally in my elements and on some days I just hate even having to deal with it. So I can certainly do with some guidance. Also I am eager to understand these cool concepts of social media ego and soul. This is so true and I constantly feel this, like checking the number of social media followers and being happy if I see an increase and upset with any decline. What is funny is I never thought I would be affected by these things but again vanity is real.

    • November 5, 2018 / 2:55 pm

      Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment Suktara. Social media can be such a roller coaster at times, you are definitely not alone in these feelings. The book was great to gain some perspective again, it is well worth a read <3 xx

  4. November 5, 2018 / 12:22 pm

    I love the sound of this book! I’d not heard of it before but it sounds like it’s something I need to read. It’s so easy to get caught up in the numbers with social media, how many likes a photo gets, how many followers we’ve lost in one day but this sounds like it can really refresh your mind and help you see it for what it was before. Social media is for so much more than just our following and likes, it’s helped me get to know people I’d have never have met otherwise and it’s because of it I found blogging. Fab review Bexa xx

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

    • November 5, 2018 / 3:01 pm

      Thank you so much for the kind comment Tiffany! I agree, social media is way more than just the numbers, the blogging community is fantastic! The book was a great way to refresh and see things from a better perspective. I’m glad you enjoyed the review lovely <3 xx

  5. November 5, 2018 / 1:21 pm

    I’m LOVING the sound of this. I’ve had a love/hate relationship with social media, some more than others… anyway it’s quite right, it’s not all about numbers but about making real connections. I’ve already applied that to my Instagram – after many months trying all sorts to find the ‘winning formula’, I’ve now decided just to make my feed about what I want it to be!


    • November 5, 2018 / 3:10 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Tracy! That’s such a great attitude to have towards Instagram, as long as we are enjoying it, that is the main thing, right? I’m glad you enjoyed the post <3 xx

  6. November 5, 2018 / 1:56 pm

    This sounds like an interesting take on social media. Before I started blogging the only social media I used were Facebook and Pinterest. Not for promotions though. But since I’ve joined Twitter and Instagram I’ve discovered what amazingly supportive and fun communities there are out here. Yes there’s drama sometimes, and yes, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by a superlatively stunning picture, but it’s good to remember that we are in control of our feeds. It’s important to have that healthy balance. Great review, thank you, Bexa! xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • November 5, 2018 / 3:20 pm

      Thank you so much for the kind comment Lisa. That’s such a good reminder that we are in control of our feeds and we can put our phones down anytime we like. I’m glad you enjoyed the review lovely <3 xx

  7. November 5, 2018 / 3:46 pm

    This book sounds great! I love that it’s not really a book about how to get likes/followers etc but how to engage and connect and share what we love. I started my blog a while back and I didn’t really use social media but in October this year I started to use Twitter a lot more and the blogger community is absolutely amazing, I love seeing what everyone gets up to and starting conversations with people. I love the Twitter blog threads not just to promote my own blog but to read and find new blogs is my all-time favourite thing. Everyone is so creative and we all deserve to show the world. I might have to purchase this book!!

    Chloe xx

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:05 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Chloe! Twitter is fantastic for discovering new and awesome bloggers, comment threads are my favourite too, I love seeing other peoples creativity! <3 xx

  8. November 5, 2018 / 5:06 pm

    I love the sound of this book – it seems like this is the right message in regards to social media instead of the fake or negative side, it encourages a genuine connection through social media. I’ve found such an amazing community through twitter and instagram so I believe that more people are coming to a realisation that it can be used for good and help each other out. Thanks for bringing this book to my attention Bexa xx

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:07 pm

      Thank you so much for the thoughtful comment lovely. That is so true, there is a positive and negative side to social media, this book definitely focuses on the good stuff! <3 xx

  9. November 5, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    Social media can be so hard sometimes and there is always that pressure to post all the time! It sounds like such a great book! The cover is so cute and funny! That’s definitely a book you’d love to read!

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:08 pm

      Thank you so much Corinne! The cover is awesome, it caught my attention straight away <3 xx

  10. November 5, 2018 / 5:14 pm

    I find it all quite overwhelming so good to know it’s ok not to post!!!! Great review

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:09 pm

      Thanks so much Jo! It is reassuring to know we don’t have to be active all the time on social media <3 xx

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:09 pm

      Thanks Amie! It is well worth a read <3 xx

  11. Joy abou zeid
    November 5, 2018 / 5:25 pm

    Very nice review and it sounds like a very interesting book!! Thanks for sharing xx

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:09 pm

      Thank you Joy, I’m glad you enjoyed the review <3 xx

  12. November 5, 2018 / 5:32 pm

    This sounds amazing! I love the idea of a social media soul and ego. Finding a balance between the two is so important, especially when it comes to social media for blogging x


    • November 5, 2018 / 7:10 pm

      Thank you so much Sophie! That is so true, finding a healthy balance is so important! <3 xx

  13. November 5, 2018 / 5:34 pm

    This sounds like an amazing book that I would love! Love reading book reviews gives me ideas of what I need to be reading, I find social media so hard sometimes and just need a better understanding of it! Great post xx

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:11 pm

      Thanks so much Aaliyah! It is well worth a read to see social media from a new perspective <3 xx

  14. November 5, 2018 / 6:18 pm

    This sounds like a book I could really use. I rarely read anything other then fiction but once in a while I hear of a book that sounds really helpful. I will definitely have to look this one up!

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:12 pm

      Thanks so much Kristin! I’m glad you enjoyed the review <3 xx

  15. Michelle Blackadar
    November 5, 2018 / 7:00 pm

    this sounds like such a lovely book! it’s so easy to get caught up in social media I notice how much better I feel when I spend a day off it and in the presence of the people I’m with. It’s like night and day, especially when you’re constantly using social media for blogging. it’s lovely that she talks about the balance and not feeling quilty when you need a break. great post bexa xx

    mich / simplymich.com

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:22 pm

      Thanks so much for the lovely comment Mich! It was a really comforting read and such a great reminder to take breaks when we need them <3 xx

  16. November 5, 2018 / 7:19 pm

    Great post and I want to buy the book!

    • November 5, 2018 / 7:32 pm

      Thanks Faisal! It is well worth a read <3 xx

  17. November 5, 2018 / 8:52 pm

    Like you, I see so many bloggers & books about being aggressive to grow a following. While that’s totally fine if that’s their cup of tea, and while it’s totally understandable for those attempting to become freelance bloggers, I’m just a hobby blogger who does want to grow my following with a more gentle and relaxed approach. I just added this to my Goodreads TBR, so I’m hoping to pick it up soon!

    • November 6, 2018 / 10:36 am

      Thank you so much Macey! I know what you mean, some advice can be quite aggressive and intimidating. This book focuses more on enjoying the experience, it is well worth a read <3 xx

  18. November 5, 2018 / 11:34 pm

    I’m all for this. I’ve been trying to build genuine list of people instead of the follow to unfollow train. It’s annoying! I love this though. I wouldn’t mind reading this book!💜

    • November 6, 2018 / 10:46 am

      Thank you so much MJ! Yeah, the follow to unfollow train is so annoying! It’s nice when we find genuine and supportive people. I hope you enjoy the book! <3 xx

  19. November 6, 2018 / 2:13 am

    With social media being big these days, it is important that we watch how we use social media. Even though it’s great for sharing your content, we need to use it within limits. I like that Katie gave a good summary of balance. I totally agree with being ourselves and building genuine relationships! Glad you enjoyed the book.

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    • November 6, 2018 / 10:55 am

      That is so true, is so important we find the healthy balance and use social media within limits. Thank you so much Nancy! <3 xx

  20. November 6, 2018 / 6:28 am

    Oh my goodness! This book is something I NEED! I am finding it a bit overwhelming and feeling I am being spammy. Just trying to fit everything in with the time I have 😔. I definitely need to remember I don’t have to post everyday. Thank you for sharing this book and your review! Such a great post 😘xxx

    • November 6, 2018 / 10:57 am

      Thank you so much Lauren! Social media can get so overwhelming at times, it is reassuring to know we don’t have to show up everyday and nothing bad will happen. Glad you enjoyed the review lovely <3 xxx

  21. November 6, 2018 / 9:48 am

    It feels so refreshing to hear of a book promoting and teaching genuine connections when online and building positive relationships. It’s much nicer than all of those materials you see floating around telling you how to build a following. I’m not surprised you enjoyed it so much! x x
    Ellis || http://www.elliswoolley.co.uk

    • November 6, 2018 / 10:58 am

      Thank you so much Ellis! It is a really refreshing read and nice to see a book approaching social media from a different perspective <3 xx

  22. November 6, 2018 / 10:10 am

    The soul and the ego is so accurate… I’d never even considered anything like that before. I’d be really interested in reading this – I bet it’s really eye opening especially for someone who spends a lot of time on social media! 🙂

    • November 6, 2018 / 11:02 am

      Thanks so much Jenny! It is really eye opening and refreshing to see social media from a different perspective <3 xx

  23. November 6, 2018 / 12:02 pm

    This sounds absolutely brilliant!! I think most of us have the same love-hate relationship with social media. I can certainly relate to what you said in your opening paragraph about loving it some days, and feeling disconnected or overwhelmed the next. It sounds like this book takes a fresh approach to it and would be a really interesting read. You always recommend the best stuff. Thank you for sharing your review, Bexa!

    • November 6, 2018 / 1:18 pm

      Thank you so much Ruth! Social media can be such a roller coaster of emotions, this is definitely an interesting read to help understand it all. I’m glad you enjoyed the review! <3 xx

  24. November 6, 2018 / 12:32 pm

    The book sounds interesting. I like that she is talking about connections and relationships, and not focusing on clicks and followers. I might get the book.

    • November 6, 2018 / 1:21 pm

      Thank you Anca! It is a refreshing read and a good way to look at social media <3 xx

    • November 6, 2018 / 1:24 pm

      Thank you Priya! It is well worth a read <3 xx

  25. November 6, 2018 / 1:31 pm

    Sounds like a relevant and honest read about social media. Sounds really interesting Bexa.

    • November 6, 2018 / 6:15 pm

      Thank you so much Rachael! It’s a really good read <3 xx

  26. November 6, 2018 / 2:46 pm

    This sounds like a great read.

    I feel very shy on social media in general and I don’t think I share enough, but I think I’m just overly cautious.

    The whole idea of it being split into two areas of soul and ego is extremely interesting. I can see how I’d fit both of those.. on one hand I want to build up my following for my blog but I want meaningful connections too! It’s so tricky to balance both.

    I’m glad you found it an interesting book. Thanks for sharing ♥


    • November 6, 2018 / 6:33 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! I know the feeling, social media can be so intimidating at times. It is a really interesting book, well worth a read <3 xx

  27. November 6, 2018 / 8:10 pm

    Sounds like a really great book and helpful tool for any blogger. I love blogging and for a sort period fell into a trap of judging my content harshly based on numbers but, it doesn’t have to be that way. I love my blog but it’s all about being kind to yourself and remembering why you started in the first place. Like the book says, nothing bad will happen if you don’t post, so I don’t post until I’m in a creative mood.

    Kate x

    • November 6, 2018 / 8:28 pm

      Thanks so much Kate! That is so true, it is helpful to remember why we started in the first place before the numbers got in the way. Glad you enjoyed the review lovely <3 xx

  28. November 6, 2018 / 8:13 pm

    Sounds like such a great book and helpful tool for any bloggers. For a short period of time I started to feel down about blogging and worried too much about numbers. It’s all changed now though. Not sure what happened but, I woke up one day and just realised it didn’t have to be like that. I love blogging but I don’t want to force content. Quality not quantity and my approach to blogging feels so much more organic now. I post when I feel like I have something I want to share and it’s that simple now.

    I might have to give this book a little read!

    Kate x

    • November 6, 2018 / 8:29 pm

      Thank you Kate! That is such a great attitude to have towards blogging! <3 xx

  29. November 6, 2018 / 8:36 pm

    This sounds like the book for me. I’ve been having some trouble with social media recently so I could definitely use some words of wisdom right about now. There are plenty of advantages to social media but that doesn’t mean it can’t affect us in negative ways. I think it’s important to stay true to yourself on the internet, no matter what. Thanks for sharing this book! It’s definitely got me thinking about the way I look at social media.

    • November 6, 2018 / 8:44 pm

      Thank you so much Annie! Definitely, staying true to ourselves is so important! I’m glad you enjoyed the post lovely <3 xx

  30. November 6, 2018 / 9:07 pm

    I enjoyed this review Bexa, it sounds as if you really got a lot from reading this book! I totally agree with you, social media can be great one minute and exhausting the next. It’s so hard to strike the right balance and not get drawn into the negativities it can sometimes bring.

    I might have to give this a little read as, being a new blogger, it’s difficult to stop feeling as if I don’t measure up at times! Xx


    • November 6, 2018 / 9:12 pm

      Thank you so much lovely! Social media can really can be a roller coaster at times! I’d definitely recommend the book, it is such a reassuring read <3 xx

  31. November 6, 2018 / 10:57 pm

    I love the sound of this book, I’ll definitely be checking it out. It sounds like it would be really helpful. I’d really love to grow more, but it can be quite tough when I feel like I don’t have a lot of time and also I get quite worried about replying to people and stuff, like I think I’m pretty sure no-one cares what I have to say, haha. I like how you send it gives a gentle, comfortable approach. Definitely sounds like something I’d find helpful. Thank you for sharing 🙂


    • November 7, 2018 / 1:22 pm

      Thank you so much Amy! I know the feeling, social media can be so daunting at times! The book is well worth a read, I found it really helpful <3 xx

    • November 7, 2018 / 1:22 pm

      Thank you! <3 xx

  32. November 7, 2018 / 7:46 pm

    Glad it isn’t only me that feels like this sometimes – ‘some days I love it and think it is awesome, and other days I feel completely disconnected, exhausted and overwhelmed’.

    I have never heard about this book but it sounds like a really good read. This part really connected with me – ‘Then helps us figure out why we use social media, what our values are, and how we can show up fully with integrity and authenticity’ I will be adding this to my TO-BE-READ list, which seems to be evergrowing these days. I cant read all these books quick enough haha!

    Really great review – I will be having a look at your other self development reviews

    Hayley | hayleyxmartin

    • November 13, 2018 / 11:11 am

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Hayley! I’m so glad you enjoyed the review and will be adding the book to your list. Let me know what you think! <3 xx

  33. November 7, 2018 / 7:57 pm

    Wonderful post, dear! ♥ I really liked it!
    Hugs ♥

    • November 14, 2018 / 4:51 pm

      Thank you so much! <3 xx

  34. November 8, 2018 / 3:36 am

    This sounds like a great read! If I had time to read, I would probably do some book reviews on my blog as well. There just aren’t enough hours in the day, unfortunately. Your post gave me enough information to inspire and encourage me even though I probably won’t be able to read the book. Great job!

    • November 13, 2018 / 11:11 am

      Thank you so much Nicole! I know the feeling! I don’t read as much as I would like to, we need more hours in the day. Glad you enjoyed the review <3 xx

  35. Samantha
    November 8, 2018 / 10:31 am

    This book sounds like a worthy read – An interesting subject which we bloggers can relate to! I’d like to post on Instagram every day but I honestly don’t have time to get photos ready etc. As the book states, nothing bad will happen if you don’t post! We shouldn’t be defined by our following anyway. Definitely going to look this book up so thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    Samantha x


    • November 13, 2018 / 11:17 am

      Thank you so much Samantha! It’s such a great book which is well worth a read. I’m glad you enjoyed the review <3 xx

  36. November 9, 2018 / 4:30 pm

    I really love this review! You really let the content of the book shine through. It definitely sounds like a book I need to read as soon as possible. I feel like sometimes people can forget what is important when it comes to blogging, such as making genuine connections and engaging with other members of the community, rather than likes and follows. I love that this book recognises that we have both sides to us and helps to balance it out to make us the best bloggers as possible. I can definitely see why they call her the ‘Social Media Angel’. This was a great review! Thanks so much for sharing! 💜

    • November 13, 2018 / 11:24 am

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Kelly, that is so kind of you. Making genuine connections and engaging with other members of the community is such an important aspect to blogging and makes it more enjoyable too. I’m glad you enjoyed the post <3 xx

  37. November 10, 2018 / 11:51 am

    Sounds like a very interesting book! I definitely have a love/hate relationship with insta! Will definitely look in to this book! xx

    • November 13, 2018 / 11:37 am

      Thank you Huda! Hope you enjoy the book! <3 xx

  38. November 11, 2018 / 12:40 pm

    I like the more “human” approach to social media, and I think that’s how you apply it yourself. You seem so genuine and kind and you always take the time to return comments, respond to comments, and generally be a great person.
    I hope you enjoyed your social media free retreat. My regards to Jenny <3


    • November 13, 2018 / 12:10 pm

      Aww thank you so much Kate, you are so sweet! That is such a lovely and kind thing to say. The retreat was super relaxing thank you, I’m feeling very chilled today. Hope you had a nice weekend too! <3 xx

  39. November 11, 2018 / 5:27 pm

    Wow, this was so interesting! This book sounds so currents and unlike anything else on the market. May have to check it out 🙂 xx

    Lily Loves

    • November 13, 2018 / 12:30 pm

      Thank you so much Lily! I hope you enjoy the book! <3 xx

  40. November 12, 2018 / 2:58 am

    Nothing does the job better to refresh oneself than a book does! Couldn’t be any better time to give this book a read. This is so true how we run after likes and comments, whereas it’s more beautiful and lively without that!!! I love your review Bexa! ❤️

    Xoxo Babita

    • November 13, 2018 / 12:33 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Babita! I’m glad you enjoyed the post <3 xx

  41. November 14, 2018 / 1:48 am

    I love self help books! I just finished You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. Loved it! This book looks interesting. I think I definitely would want to check it out, perfect timing too! Thanks for sharing 🙂

    xx, Des | https://www.itsbetterinheels.com/

    • November 14, 2018 / 4:38 pm

      Thank you so much Des! That sounds like a great book, I will have to check it out. Thanks for the recommendation! <3 xx

  42. November 15, 2018 / 6:18 pm

    Because this is my kind of book, skipping all the content of “do this to get likes, post during this time of the day and etc.” I like it when authors provide tips that apply to any area of your life. While this post may help us with social media, it goes hand in hand with any situation, you never wanna lose yourself for the love of others. Thanks for sharing, once I get a little extra cash, I’ll invest in this special piece🤗

    Natonya | https://www.justnatonya.wordpress.com

    • November 16, 2018 / 12:41 pm

      Thank you so much for the lovely comment Natonya! It is well worth a read and so true that you can apply it to life too. I hope you enjoy the book! <3 xx

  43. November 19, 2018 / 5:39 am

    This sounds like an interesting book Bexa. Your review has already tempted me to look into this book. I liked the mention of ego and soul with relation to social media. I sometimes skip or am busy to check my social media happenings and then feel guilty about it. 🙂 Thanks for sharing this is such a nice post.

    Via | http://glossnglitters.com

    • November 28, 2018 / 10:09 am

      Thank you so much Via! I feel the same too, if I am too busy to check social media I feel guilty. This book is so reassuring and comforting though, well worth a read! <3 xx

  44. November 24, 2018 / 9:55 am

    This sounds like a great book. I have a love hate relationship with social media and often have long periods where I don’t use it – like now with Facebook! It took be a long time to get an Instagram account and even longer to actually use it. 😅 Twitter is probably my favourite at the moment and that’s mostly due to the wonderful blogging community.

    • November 30, 2018 / 3:27 pm

      Thank you so much Kim! I know what you mean, I am rarely on Facebook and only occasionally on Insta. My favourite is Twitter too, it is such an awesome supportive community <3 xx

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