10 Easy Ways To Create Calm

This weekend Shaun and I chilled out in style. I am talking duvets, heating on, cosy clothes, snacks, books and films. It was defo much needed. Life can get really hectic at times which means anxiety and stress levels slowly rise up without us realizing. So having a complete rest day is sometimes necessary to re-balance and regain the chill in your life. Our weekend of relaxation perfectly coincided with the arrival of my new book Calm by Fearne Cotton. I tweeted on Sunday that after reading just one chapter I fell asleep, so it must be working heh.

Last November I read Fearne’s book called Happy, which I reviewed here. I fell in love with her gorgeous writing style and the way she uses words so creatively. Her book made a lot of sense and offered so many snippets of wisdom – so when I noticed she had released a follow up book, I was straight onto Amazon to order my copy.

Fearne has included her own beautiful illustrations which add a splash of colour and really bring the book to life.

‘Calm is feeling connected even when everything feels hectic’

‘Self-care isn’t overindulgent or a luxury, it’s about not being too hard on yourself’

This is a fab book which you can dip in and out of when you are in need of a moment of calm. It’s got activities and easy ideas to try. If you are looking for suggestions on self-care, how to keep your life in balance, managing uncomfortable emotions and finding your way back to ease and peace then this book is for you. Click here to order yourself a copy and feel the calmness return to your life. But first, here are my 10 Easy Ways To Create Calm.

Paint, colour, create

You don’t need to be an artist to do art. Grab a pen and some pencils and have fun sketching, doodling and experimenting with colour. It’s fun, therapeutic and gives your mind a rest from the stresses of everyday life.

Escape with a book

Books are the best way to calm the mind and escape to some place new. If you don’t have time for a novel, why not pick up a magazine which you can enjoy on your coffee break.

Create a chill playlist

I can listen to chilled Spotify playlists all day and find they are perfect for anything from relaxing in the bath to background study music. A few of my favourites which bring me instant chill are ChillStep, Feels, Tropical House, Ibiza Sunset and Focus On The Remix.

Play a sport

Shaun & I have just recently started playing badminton and it honestly is such a relaxing way to get fit. I’ve noticed that because I am so focused on the game, I stop thinking, my worries disappear and my body relaxes. Any sport where you need to concentrate is great for reducing anxiety.

Enjoy nature

Going for a walk is calming in itself, but walking in nature is the ultimate in chill. Fresh air, exercise and beautiful scenery is enough to quiet an overthinking mind. My favourite places to walk are along the seafront watching the waves or exploring a countryside trail and looking out for wildlife.

Guided relaxation

I have mentioned YouTube yoga a few times already on my blog, but Youtube is also a great place to find guided relaxations. If I am feeling particularly anxious and in need a quick relaxation fix, I’ll search for one of these, close my eyes and feel the tension melt away.

Write down your thoughts

Stress can cause so much mental chaos, it is sometimes hard to make sense of it all. I find it helps to keep a journal or diary and jot down my thoughts and feelings. This helps to put things into perspective and closing the book on your anxieties is somewhat therapeutic.

Watch your favourite comedy

Laughter is one of the best stress busters out there. If you are feeling on edge and nothing seems to be working, an episode of your favourite show can lift your spirits and distract your from your worries. What are your favourites? I always enjoy watching Alan Partridge, Peep Show and Only Fools And Horses – gotta love a bit of British comedy.

Bath with all the bubbles

Relaxing in the bath at the end of a long day is great for the body and mind. I light a few candles, select my perfect playlist and let the tension from the day melt away. It’s my favourite thing to do and no matter how I’m feeling, a soak in a hot bath will always make me feel completely refreshed and calm afterwards.

Avoid negativity

Finally, staying away from negativity and drama will do wonders for stress levels. Seek out positive people and those who build you up instead of knocking you down. The sort of people you surround yourself with has a great impact on your mood, self-esteem and overall mental health.

I hope you enjoyed my 10 easy ways to create calm, let me know your relaxation ideas in the comments. I would love to hear your thoughts.

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  1. January 22, 2018 / 4:10 pm

    Loving your tips! Thanks for sharing:)


    • January 23, 2018 / 8:01 am

      Thanks so much Irina! πŸ’• xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:04 am

      Thanks so much for the comment Jessica & James! πŸ’– Books are fabulous ways to escape and forget about life for a while 😘 xx

  2. corinne & kirsty
    January 22, 2018 / 5:07 pm

    My favorite is reading. So true that reading is relaxing and calms you down. Also it makes you ready for bed! I didn’t know this book before! I must check it out! xx corinne

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:05 am

      Thank so much Corinne πŸ’–. Books are brilliant for escapism and totally agree that they help you sleep too ☺️. Definitely check out Calm, it’s a great read! 😘 xx

  3. January 22, 2018 / 5:08 pm

    Those are great and easy tips to create some calm. I love a good hike in the nature and taking a soothing bubble bath afterwards. β™₯

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:07 am

      That sounds like the most perfect way to relax πŸ’–. Thank you so much for commenting Susanne 😘 xx

  4. Eleanor May
    January 22, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    These are great tips and all seem pretty simple. I will definitely be trying these tips!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:07 am

      Thanks so much Eleanor, so glad you enjoyed the post πŸ’– xx

  5. Katy Mackenzie
    January 22, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    I love this post so much! From someone who is barely calm, I will be using this post as a guide to help me! Thank you!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:08 am

      Thanks for the comment Katy! πŸ’• I’m glad you found the post useful 😘 xx

  6. January 22, 2018 / 5:16 pm

    Thanks for the great tips. I totally agree with going for a walk, doing yoga/meditation and reading. They definitely help calm me down. I think I’ll take your advice about having a bubble bath, I haven’t done that for ages!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:09 am

      Definitely 😍. Baths are super relaxing πŸ’•. Thank you so much for your comment Eve, I’m glad you liked the tips 😘 xx

  7. January 22, 2018 / 5:17 pm

    I enjoyed your posts on creating calm in life- particularly could relate to writing down your thoughts. I love journalling myself, and agree that it’s a great way to sort out one’s thoughts. Another great way to “unwind” (yes pun sort of intended) for me has been to take up knitting. It’s only been since last February that I’ve started but already it’s meditative effects are working on me. When I knit I can feel some of my worries fade with each stitch and know that I get a little more antsy if I don’t have a project on the go. Also I enjoy baking- as a side relaxation technique-, focusing on the ingredients and following directions creates a great distraction from what may be worrying me. πŸ™‚

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:11 am

      Knitting sounds super relaxing! πŸ’• And baking is another great one too! It’s so good that we can be chilled and productive at the same time! ☺️ Thank you so much for the lovely thoughtful comment Kylie πŸ’– I really appreciate it 😘 xx

  8. Sophie
    January 22, 2018 / 5:17 pm

    These are such good tips! I love chilled weekends, bubblebaths and spa days are my favourite ways of relaxing!- https://sophiehearts.net x

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:13 am

      Definitely! πŸ’– Spa days are the best! ☺️ Thanks so much for your comment Sophie, so glad you enjoyed the post 😘 xx

  9. Sarah Sinclair
    January 22, 2018 / 5:17 pm

    This is such a lovely post!! I also think I need this book! I love to read when I need to chill out, it relaxes me so much and allows me to unwind!

    Sarah | http://www.sazsinclair.com xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:14 am

      That’s so true Sarah πŸ’– books are so good for relaxation. Thanks so much for the lovely comment and pleased you liked the post 😘 xx

  10. January 22, 2018 / 5:20 pm

    Some great tips on how to be calm and relaxed. I always love to run a bath it always helps me relax.

    • January 22, 2018 / 5:21 pm

      Thank you for sharing xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:15 am

      Baths are definitely my favourite πŸ’–. Thanks so much for the comment Lauren, so glad you liked the tips 😘 xx

  11. January 22, 2018 / 5:26 pm

    Hi Bexa!

    This post is god sent considering how often I struggle to achieve the simple, yet sometimes very complicated state of calm. You’ve mentioned pretty much all of my go to methods for achieving a state of calm. The only one I’d add is spending time with our dogs β™‘ Their pure and positive energy always puts a smile on my face and has my stress melting away.

    Also, that book looks fabulous! Definitely want to check that out for myself!

    ZoΓ« | http://zoejoyxoxo.com/

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:18 am

      Aww yes, spending time with pets is such a good way to relax πŸ’–. I love it when my cats come and sit on my lap for strokes, it’s so calming ☺️. Thanks so much for the lovely thoughtful comment ZoΓ« πŸ’– so glad you liked the post & definitely check out the book, it’s great! 😘 xx

  12. January 22, 2018 / 5:29 pm

    That book looks absolutely gorgeous, definitely thinking that might be added to my Amazon list! This is a really lovely post: it’s nice thinking that it is okay to take a step back from everything and take some time for yourself – it’s so easy to forget that these days. Lovely post!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:20 am

      Thanks so much Lindsey! πŸ’– It’s definitely a good book to add to the list ☺️. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, thanks for the lovely comment! 😘 xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:23 am

      Adult colouring books are such a brilliant way to chill πŸ’–. Great suggestion! Thank you so much for your lovely comment Rebecca, glad you enjoyed the tips 😘 xx

  13. Maira
    January 22, 2018 / 5:33 pm

    Lovely post! I didn’t know about Fearne Cotton books but they look and sound beautiful πŸ™‚ My favourite ways to create calm definitely include observing nature and getting lost in a good book.


    • January 23, 2018 / 8:24 am

      Books & nature are always so calming πŸ’–. Calm is a really good book, so many thoughtful ideas & suggestions ☺️. Thanks so much for your comment Maira and pleased you enjoyed the post 😘 xx

  14. January 22, 2018 / 5:53 pm

    I love this post so many great ideas to create some calm amongst the chaos that is life ! I have been wanting to read Fearne’s first book for ages and had no idea she had published a second – * added to my evergrowing list of books to read !
    Great post thanks Bexa πŸ˜ƒ

    Melanie | http://www.frasersfunhouse.com

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:26 am

      Thanks so much for the lovely comment Melanie πŸ’–. It’s definitely a good book to read, so many handy tips and beautiful illustrations ☺️. I’m glad you enjoyed the post 😘 xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:27 am

      Thanks so much Lindsay, it is definitely a good book πŸ’– xx

  15. January 22, 2018 / 6:06 pm

    My mum is currently reading this book and loving it! She said it’s really helped her so far. My favourite way to chill out is a bath and some nice music or doing something like getting into my PJs and watching friends πŸ™‚
    Alice Xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:28 am

      That sounds perfect Alice! πŸ’– I can’t wait to put on my cosy clothes as soon as I get home ☺️. I’m glad your mum is enjoying the book and thank you for the lovely comment 😘 xx

  16. Lily Segui
    January 22, 2018 / 6:10 pm

    I love love love self care books so I definitely need to check this one out. Also I’m starting yoga today and I’m hoping this helps with muscle tension and relaxation! Such a helpful and we’ll written post πŸ™‚

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:29 am

      Aww thanks so much for your lovely comment Lily! πŸ’– I hope you love yoga, it’s such a great way to relax 😘 xx

  17. Jenni
    January 22, 2018 / 6:20 pm

    Oh that book sounds and looks like something I want to read. You have also really good tips to create balance to the hectic days. Lovely post and beautifully written!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:30 am

      Aww thank you for the lovely comment Jenni πŸ’–. That’s so nice of you to say 😘 xx

  18. January 22, 2018 / 6:21 pm

    These are such good tips! Am really loving taking time out of my day to do some youtube yoga recently!

    Carla x

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:31 am

      YouTube Yoga is such a good one for relaxation πŸ’–. Thanks so much for your lovely comment Carla 😘 xx

  19. January 22, 2018 / 6:32 pm

    Great post Bexa! I had read fearne first book happy but haven’t gotten around to ordering this one yet! Some really great tips, I personally love adult colouring books I think they were a great invention and help non-arty people like me feel calm and create something pretty !!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:32 am

      Adult colouring books sound super relaxing! πŸ’– Thank you for your lovely thoughtful comment Amy, so glad you enjoyed the post 😘 xx

  20. January 22, 2018 / 6:37 pm

    Bexa, I am a forever in awe of your photography, everything is so cute and well put together! Painting, colouring, and getting creative are some of my favourite ways to settle my mind, I especially love card making at the moment, and it is so lovely to know that I can send something handmade and personal to friends and family as a result of my creativity! Escaping into a book is another love of mine, I was recently sent a copy of A Little Life by one of my friends which I need to get stuck into! I definitely need to pick up a copy of Fearne Cotton’s book too!

    Abbey x

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:37 am

      Aww thank you so much for your lovely thoughtful comment Abbey πŸ’–. Card making sounds super relaxing! I did a whole load of DIY Christmas Cards last year and found it was the perfect way to zone out and relax for a few hours, I loved it! 😍 I’ll have to check out A Little Life too, – thanks for the recommendation 😘 xx

  21. Written by Neea
    January 22, 2018 / 6:44 pm

    Very useful tips! I’ve never heard of Fearne Cotton, but I definitely need to check her books out, because they seem interesting! Also, gotta say that I love the pics in this post, so bright!

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:38 am

      Thanks so much for the lovely comment Neea πŸ’– definitely check out Calm, it’s a great book! 😘 xx

  22. January 22, 2018 / 7:45 pm

    The book looks gorgeous! (I didn’t know Fearne could illustrate..). Thank you for your tips! I already feel calm after reading them!

    I’m actually currently reading a book on neuro-sciences, which I’m an absolute noob in and it keeps stressing me slightly out about how weird our brains are and how we perceive reality (a real brain-cracker: how do we know if the colour red, which we both identify as red, is the same colour perceived by our brains? It starts with the colour red, it ends with the world…). So perhaps not EVERY book… πŸ˜‰



    • January 23, 2018 / 8:43 am

      I was also impressed when I found out Fearne did all her own illustrations, she’s very good! πŸ’• Wow, the book on neuroscience sounds intriguing! I studied a lot on the brain in my science degree and it’s definitely a complex thing! πŸ™ˆ It fascinates me that the brain is always regenerating and growing new neural connections, so we never stop learning! Although I’m not sure I could feel calm reading something that in-depth he he πŸ˜‚. Thanks so much for your interesting comment Dominique πŸ’• xx

  23. Shaun
    January 22, 2018 / 8:19 pm

    An excellent post Bexa 😘. Your tips are very useful, a good walk and some fresh air is always a great stress buster πŸ˜„. I agree, a game of badminton is a brilliant way to relax ☺️. I love the illustrations in the book too πŸ˜„πŸ˜β€οΈπŸ˜˜ xxxx

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:46 am

      Aw thanks so much for your lovely comment Shaun πŸ’–. Badminton is definitely a lot of fun! Walks are such a good way to relax and chill. Glad you enjoyed the post πŸ˜˜πŸ˜β˜ΊοΈπŸ˜„xxxx

  24. January 22, 2018 / 8:40 pm

    These are great tips! A good book and a little hug with my dog is usually good for me. That book looks amazing, I used to love Fearne Cotton when I was younger x


    • January 23, 2018 / 8:48 am

      Aww yes, cuddles with pets is the perfect way to relax and feel calm πŸ’–. Thanks so much for the comment Sophie, it’s a great book, would definitely recommend! 😘 xx

  25. January 22, 2018 / 9:33 pm

    These are great ideas, Bexa. I’m a big fan of reading, nature walks, and Friends never fails to have me howling! Taking time for me is one of my 2018 aspirations so I’ll have to check out a few more of your suggestions too, thank you 😊 x

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:51 am

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment Lisa! πŸ’– A good comedy is always the perfect way to unwind and feel relaxed ☺️. So glad you enjoyed the post and hope you have lots of chill time in 2018 😘 xx

  26. January 22, 2018 / 9:54 pm

    Great tips in this post! Avoiding negativity and drama is the best way for me to stay de-stressed, my life is so much better since cutting out negative people. I really want to read some of Fearne Mccanes books, great post!xx

  27. Emily
    January 22, 2018 / 10:16 pm

    Thanks for this Bexa! Always need to find more time to chill, and it’s so important we do! Life can get in the way, it’s nice to have a bit of downtime sometimes x

    Emily | thatcreativegenius.wordpress.com

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:52 am

      So true Emily! πŸ’– it’s important to make time for some chill and downtime. Thanks so much for your lovely comment 😘 xx

  28. January 22, 2018 / 11:01 pm

    Great post! My way of relaxing is curling up with a funny book.

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:53 am

      That sound like the perfect way to relax! πŸ’– Thanks so much for the comment Sakhile 😘 xx

  29. January 23, 2018 / 6:58 am

    i’m reading happy at the moment! i do like her style but some bits i’m finding a little basic, if i’m honest! powering through though because there’s some beautiful wisdom along the way β™₯

    my favourite way to destress is to go for a walk, preferrably with a good pal who wont mind me biting their ear off for a while… πŸ™‚

    katie. xx lacoconoire.com

    • January 23, 2018 / 8:56 am

      He he, walks and rants are definitely a good way to de-stress and feel calm again πŸ’–. I’ve not read all of Calm yet, but seems like a good book to dip in and out out when I’m looking for a bit of inspiration ☺️. Thanks so much for your lovely thoughtful comment Katie 😘 xx

  30. January 23, 2018 / 12:20 pm

    I’ve seen a few people alking about this book lately and it DEFINITELY sounds right up my street so it’s going straight on my to-buy list. The Illustrations are absolutely gorgeous as well. Definitely something I need on a day when I’m feeling low – and she’s so right about self care as well, we all need to stop being so hard on ourselves! πŸŽ‰

    • January 24, 2018 / 6:41 am

      It’s such a relaxing book Jenny! πŸ’– And she illustrates it beautifully. I would definitely recommend it! Thanks so much for your lovely comment 😘 xx

  31. January 23, 2018 / 3:37 pm

    I felt more clam just by reading your tips. πŸ˜‰
    All great ideas and doable. Now only if I can follow half of them, haha.

    • January 24, 2018 / 6:42 am

      He he, thanks so much for your comment Lauren, so glad you felt relaxed reading the post πŸ’–β˜ΊοΈ xx

  32. Lena Dee
    January 24, 2018 / 1:26 pm

    I think these tips are spot on! I always enjoy when you do these kind of posts πŸ™‚ I think there will forever be something therapeutic about art, it’s my fave thing to do when I really need to center myself (and yoga ofc) And who doesn’t love nature, it has the purest effect on the soul.& your last for sure is a must, it’s not always possible but you have to really try. Great post Bex & I definitely want to add this book to my basket! πŸ’–

    xx Lena | https://lenadeexo.com/

    • January 25, 2018 / 7:22 am

      Thanks so much for your sweet & thoughtful comment Lena πŸ’–. Yoga, art & nature are sooo good for relaxation ☺️. Definitely check out the book, it’s very good with pretty illustrations too! 😘 xx

  33. January 24, 2018 / 3:08 pm

    The design of this book is really nice. All the illustrations – so cute!

    • January 25, 2018 / 7:23 am

      Thanks for your comment Lilly πŸ’• it’s a really pretty book! xx

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